Jul 27 Choose Happiness: A Black Woman’s Perspective On Interracial Dating

Choose HAPPINESS over anything else…INTERRACIAL DATING!

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I LOVE seeing people who are comfortable with whomever they have chosen to date or marry.  You should NEVER look at a person because of their race and say “I can’t date this person because he or she isn’t Caucasian, African-American, Hispanic, etc.

I continue to see interracial couples being side-eyed or even stared at on the train, bus, at restaurants, just everywhere.  I really get annoyed for them because I don’t get the big deal.  The ONLY issue I have is for example if lets say an African-American person says” I only date white people or I only date Hispanics because blacks are just NO good”.  Now statements like that make my skin crawl.

My cousin came to NYC from London with his Caucasian girlfriend. People were literally turning their heads to look at them.  I was happy to see that it didn’t affect them.  Thinking back it affected me more because I would just think “What exactly is the problem?”  They are two people that are in love and enjoying life.

A situation happened to me freshmen year at Pace University.  I met an Italian guy and the chemistry was crazy. We would talk on the phone all the time and went out a few times.  We had good times together and he really made it seem like it would go further.   One time when he mentioned that his family didn’t approve with him dating outside of his race.  He then asked me how my family felt and I told him “I’ve been raised to NOT see COLOR or RACE.  He sounded very shocked.  As time went on he started to distance himself without a reason being directly told to me.  Eventually, we both transferred to different schools and things just faded out.

Years passed and recently we re-connected through facebook.  He was very excited to hear from me.  He set up a day for us to go out, the day came and he was nowhere to be found.  He would then hit me u saying things like “I’m sorry I’ve been busy at work”, “Don’t think I don’t want to see you because I do”, “We need to finish what we started at Pace University” and “You’re just so beautiful”.  All those words would come out of his mouth BUT NO action was taken.

I started seeing a “Caucasian” girl posting comments on his page, “you’re my new favorite guy”, and “I’m so excited to hang out”.  Then it HIT me, he would LOVE to go out with me BUT it all goes back to his family’s approval.  So why bother to lead me on? NOT once but twice.  I sent him a message telling him he’s exactly how he was at Pace University.  He wants to taste but afraid to get fully involved.  And instead of him being REAL he just ran away from the issue. I also told him I know that the fact that I’m African-American would be a BIG NO-NO in his family’s book. He NEVER responded which made me know for sure that my feelings were right.

At the end of the day HAPPINESS should not be based on color or race.  You can’t stop who you like or fall in love with.  Even if at first your family does not approve, seeing you happy will make them happy.

“BE TRUE, BE YOU, NOTHING ELSE MATTERS WHEN IT COMES TO BEING HAPPY AND IN LOVE”

_simplyvee_

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