Hello, misguided people of the online world. I’d like to thank you for
volunteering all of your most personal business and making the
internet more interesting than any soap opera. You are most likely the
reason All My Children has been canceled.  Obviously, some of you are confused by Facebook (and other sites) referring to the people you’ve given access to your account as ‘friends’. For the sake of knowledge, lets explore what a friend is.

According to Dictionary.com a ‘Friend’ is.

Friend – (noun)
1. a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
2. a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter.

Now, take a moment and ask yourself, “Myself… how many of my ‘online
buddies’ are REALLY my FRIENDS?”… Then, subtract that number from the total quantity of people linked to you through the internet – and you will be left with the amount of people laughing at you and your
problems.

WE DON’T CARE that you were cheated on. WE DON’T CARE that your child got an ‘F’ on their report card. WE DON’T CARE that your landlord is threatening to evict you again. WE DON’T CARE about your heart being broken – REPAIR IT, OR GO GET A NEW ONE!!! WE… DON’T… CARE!!! We’re pointing our fingers at you. Yes, and we’re laughing. Laughing a good laugh from the depths of our souls.

As soon as you have an argument or issue with the person you’re
dating, a family member, or problems with other people- you flee to the online world to vent. That’s a damn shame. There is no better way to get through those complications than good communication. But, your desperation for attention from strangers is hurting your relations.
It’s a shame that without any hesitation, you run online and tell everyone your whole situation.

Don’t be surprised when the personal information you disclose to the public world comes back to bite you in your ass. For every ONE person empathizing with your plea for help, there are FOUR more laughing at you. Shaking their heads, calling other people, sharing what your newest online updates – and celebrating your troubles. If no one has ever told you this, “loose lips sink ships”. In 2011, so do loose
fingertips. Keep your private matters as they should be – PRIVATE.

I Love You,

Nova Giovanni

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10 Reasons Why I’m Cheating On You by Nova Giovanni

1. You’re always accusing me of it. If I’m already getting treated
like I’m cheating on you– why not do it and prove you right? You
always think you’re right anyway.

2. When you met me, I was with another woman. This is karma at its
finest. What I’ll do WITH you, I’ll do TO you.

3. You don’t do the things you used to do. Before, you would cook at least 5 nights a week. Now, McDonalds knows what I’m going to ask for before I place my order.

4. You reject my advances in bed. My sexy female co-workers are
ALWAYS flirting with me. I don’t HAVE to come home to your rejection.

5. You’re slacking on your appearance. You were in shape when we
first got together. Now, you’re JUST a shape – a circle, to be exact.

6. You let our love life become your whole life and now depend on
me for everything. If you caught me cheating – then what? You’re not
going anywhere.

7. Sometimes, I just want to know that I’ve still got it. You never
compliment me. Knowing  I can conquer another woman really boosts my
ego.

8. Its so easy to do. You think I spend hours on Facebook checking
on my cousins’ lives? No! I’m waiting for Big Booty Judy to accept my
friend request.

9. I need variety in the bed. You never want to switch things up.
Its like pizza. I love pizza, but don’t want it EVERY night.

10. I’m a man. I REALLY don’t need a reason. The last 9 things were
just excuses.

Sorry, (that I got caught)

Nova Giovanni

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By: Miss Jenkins

As I read the post by my fellow bloggers, Rahim, Dr. J, and my caramel latte Streetz, I learned a thing or two about the things that matter to men when they get fired from a relationship. Although, I can rock with some of categories and questions included in the exit interview proposed, something was missing for me. When I think about things I want to accomplish in an exit interview, I’m interested in information that will help me be a better employee or boo next time around. Who else but your former supervisor or ex to tell you about yourself in the most honest, yet painful, way? On with it.

1. What did you like the most about me? Let’s start here because it’s good to start any interview on a high note. Plus I like to hear things that reinforce my sense of fabulousness.  

2. What areas you think I could improve in? If I did everything right, (although I did most things right) you wouldn’t be heading out the door carrying that little box filled with your personal effects. I’ll concede that I can improve in some areas. 

3. What did you dislike about me the most? This is similar to the previous question, but this is reserved for those things I need to change or get rid of completely. And nope, wearing a head-tie to bed can’t go here.

4. Did you try your best to make it work? If you didn’t, you can stop here and go eff off, buddy.  

5. Did another woman catch your attention while we were together? What was it about her?  This may seem like a set up, but it’s not. I want to know what she had that I didn’t. What needs did she fulfill? It could give me some insight into whether I should cut your tires or bust the windows out your car how I can improve as a boo. 

6. How do you feel about me now? Do you hate my guts? Do you want to be friends or are you singing that Deborah Cox and R.L. track? Do you still want to keep in touch? Please say no. I need to know this so I can know if I should try to avoid you the numerous functions we are both sure to attend because we have damn near all the same friends. 

7. What’s your best memory of us? There had to be something good worth holding on to. And yes, you can talk about sex here if you’d like.

8. What’s your worst memory of us? Although many of these memories probably resulted in some of our best memories together, tell me about the stuff that led to the make-up sex.

9. What did you learn about yourself? I’m hoping that I was able to teach you something about yourself in the bedroom. 

10. What will do you differently next time? I’m hoping that after all this, we can be better for the next boo. If you can’t be, sucks for her.  

What else do you want to know about yourself or your boo when yall chuck the deuces up? Do you want to know anything at all?

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O.K so there’s this dude, he is wonderful.  Smart, funny, incredibly sexy, and we’ll yes you can admit it, you’ve already had sex with him and that’s great too.  It seems his pockets are thick, and oh boy he can dress, has his own apartment and drives a ‘FunkMaster Flex approved V’.  He tells you that he has been single for a few months now, hasn’t had sex in a few months && details out to you what he’s been missing in past relationships, what’s he’s looking for.   After your responses he admits that YOU, of course, are everything he’s always looked for in a woman.

Could he be the one?

He calls you first thing in the morning when he ‘wakes up’, makes plans to see you or tells you to have a great day.  His SWAG?  It’s amazing, always on point, knows just want to say to make you feel good, he’s strong and makes you feel safe and he gives you a straight 95 minutes of pleasure whenever you see each other.  He tells you he’s a busy guy & always has a good excuse when you ask him to spend more time with you.  He’s stayed over at your place at least once a month, he took you to your cousins wedding (that’s MAJOR! lol), and he’s even gotten close with your family & friends. You see him once or twice a week for several hours, and even though you’re burning inside to rush into a relationship he’s made it clear that his life is very complicated and he needs to take things slow.  Since he’s ‘Mr. Perfect’ you feel like you should fall back & wait just a little longer for a real commitment.

Maybe he’s the one worth waiting for?

As months turn into nearly a year or more, you’ve both been through some dramatic changes in your personal life but your LOVE feelings are strong to say the least, you’ve definitely committed to him && you call him your…. “Boyfriend”.  You’ve put a little pressure on him to spend nights with you && even make the effort to stay with him at his place.  He’s still just as wonderful and swaggalicious as ever and he now tells you that he’s in love with you but the excuses are getting longer and longer and your conversations, shorter and shorter.  Your morning calls are coming in at brunch if your phone rings at all, and there’s no more monthly sleep over’s.   He periodically goes MIA with no explanation.  He says his life is complicated and he’s just too busy to stay over and way too busy to be held up in the house during your visit to his place.  Your feeling inlove && confused and aggravated that you can’t be with the man that you LOVE as much as you would like.

Is he really the one?

A Couple more months pass by — you’ve practically begged him to go to his house to no avail.  You’ve Googled him, desperately searching for any ounce of evidence or information you can find out on Facebook, Twitter, Spokeo & MyLife.  Any answer that you can get as to why he’s not around like a boyfriend should be.  You’ve secretly searched his car when he went into the bodega, and even called back numbers he’s missed when he comes over to give you -  what’s more recently turned into 11 minutes of pleasure before he falls asleep.

He tells me he loves me.  I love him, he’s gotta be the one.

By now, your head over heels involved, maybe you’ve done outlandish things to get his attention, you’ve become the annoying stalker who calls his cell, then his home ‘private’, you call all the numbers you ever found in his phone and drive passed his apartment complex to see if he’s home.  You call the main girl and tell her all about you, and what you’ve been doing behind her back, she laughs at you unaffected while you say things like “I just want to know where I stand, don’t you want him all to yourself?” Your life has taken many twists and turns and conversations with your boyfriend are turning into vicious arguments. You’re realizing that he comes through the day before Valentine’s day and Christmas and his Birthday.  He convinced you to abort the baby you waited your whole life for and your pledge to be faithful to him has long been over.  He promises to be there for you but he never comes through and even your day to day emergencies like a flat tire – he’s unable to assist you with.  By now you’ve flat-out asked him “are you SURE you don’t have a wife or girlfriend?”  The answer:  Stop it! I love you, you’re never gonna leave me right?

Oh yes, he’s definitely the one.

The people in real relationships would address you as what I refer to as “the during the day hoe”.  It’s always baffled me as to how someone could see a man once a week and think that he’s your man.  Meanwhile his day to day life, bills, issues, stresses and happiness is taken care of by his ‘MAIN GIRL’.  She is the one who knows when he’s running low on boxers, what he’s in the mood to eat for dinner && when to reorder his pharmacy prescriptions.  She’s the one he calls when he needs to make a dentist appointment, and when he’s feeling down, when he’s got good news or bad she’s the first to hear it.  She’s the one he kisses before he puts his head on the pillow to go to sleep.  She’s the one he helps carry grocery bags for, she’s the one he takes shopping, out to dinner and spends the money on.  She’s the one who makes the bed, washes the dishes, irons his clothes and holds his head when he cries.  He spends every holiday with her.  She’s the one he babies and calls his wife. She gets everything you ever wanted and dreamed about from him. She is his everything, and she deals with everything, including still loving him after knowing about you.  She is the one his Mother loves.  She is the perfect wifey.  He is her everything and you; you’ve been sleeping with her man.

It hurts; yeah it hurts, but let’s face it, you knew better.  You knew when you met him that something wasn’t right.  His game was good enough to convince a jury of 12 if necessary and that good lovin’ spoke a thousand words.  You say he’s not interested in being in a ‘REAL’ relationship, but the truth is he is already in a real relationship.  You’re desperate.  Trying to justify the reasons for his cheating on a woman he’s been with for years.  You refuse to believe that the man you love and have talked with about marriage, children and a future would do this to you.  Some men are just dogs trying to get the next bone, and like getting weak women caught up in strong situations.  It’s easy to convince someone that they are crazy when the situation is already crazy.  You try to convince yourself that his real woman isn’t satisfying him, isn’t making him happy, or isn’t doing the job.  You try to assure yourself that if he just left her, kicked her out, or divorced her ass things would be better and you can move on with your lives.

I am better than her.  I can make him leave her.

You’ve gotten real good at getting his attention and keeping your nails in his skin.  But his visits are few and further in between then usual, his house is off limits, and you’re starting to feel like this whole thing was just a game.  It is a game!  One that men && women will play until humans don’t exist anymore.  The drama, the back & forth, the love, the sex, the fighting, screaming & yelling it’s all part of a very sick but very fun game of ‘You  getting got’.  The life of a true player, the one who made you love him because that’s what he so selfishly needed at the time.  You will always be the during the day hoe, the one who didn’t make the cut, a once a week rendezvous, the one who was years too late, and the saddest part is… You still want him even though by now he’s told you by word or by action that he will never leave her.

He is the one!  For her, not you.

Back To Me

Two weeks after being hospitalized for taking a mix of aspirin and sleeping pills, Fantasia has admitted that she was trying to kill herself.

“I didn’t have any fight in me,” Barrino said. “I didn’t care about anything. I just wanted out,” she admitted during an interview for her VH1 “Behind The Music” special.  “I just sat in the closet and looked at the mirror and took all the pills in the bottle.”

The full interview will air tomorrow, and her album, Back To Me, is available in stores as of tomorrow as well… hmmm.

Source: People