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UNinspired, UNexcited, and the UNgrateful

Yep, I feel inspired and excited to talk about UNgrateful people.

First of all, all of us,  including myself, probably has been or is being ungrateful to someone–right now…and if you don’t think its you, you’re wrong. Trust me someone is o_O ‘ing you right now, thinking ’bout how they lent you fitty cent in the 6th grade that day for chocolate milk cuz you’re broke ass was chokin on butter crunch and forgot to bring extra funds.

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Let's Care About Black People

How often do you choose black business over doing business with other races?

Have you ever been in a situation where working with a black owned business has prevented you from wanting to deal with others?

Share your story.

Why are you hold that one person or group responsible for the whole race?

If you are a business owner, do you find yourself being discriminated by both black people and others, because of your skin color?

Do you feel like you have to “prove yourself” more than other vendors in your line of business?

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I think I'm taking my talents to Alicia Keys.

I can’t see why any man is mad at Swizz Beatz for what he did.  Actually, I can, he’s probably not the highest on my list of people I’ve sign off on.  I wouldn’t actually admit this anywhere but here, but… LeBron James going to Miami has nothing on Swizz Beatz leaving Mashonda for Alicia Keys.  So on Mother’s Day 2008, Swizz Beatz sat at his dining room table as Mashonda opened her Mother’s Day card and said, “Baby, I have something to tell you, I’m f*cking Alicia Keys.”  (If I was sleeping with Alicia Keys, I’d tell everyone I know even my mama.)

I can think of several times in life when I have made The Decision.  High school, I’d date a chick, find a better chick, and break up with the old one on BlackPlanet.  Now this type of thing happens every day and we just look over it.  And in addition to that, there’s always getting Amare’d, when you leave a good girl for a bottom chick.  You might have thought she was going to throw some D’s on it, but all you got was two A’s and a big a*s thigh.

Here’s a practical example of doing the LeBron and making The Decision.  The Let Out – You know that when the club ends and you are trying to find beats, you will leave the chick you talked to all night, to go to the woman who gives you the best chance to win.  Let me tell you something about women, if you got that girl because you make six figures, drive a Mercedes, and have a big house in Connecticut, I have no clue what you are going to do when the Senior VP shows up at Greenhouse in a helicopter and whisks her away to the Hamptons.  I feel like the jury is still out on Brad Pitt, I still think Jennifer Anniston is a bad b*tch.  And by b*tch, I mean that she is a shrewd, complaining all the time, always got something to say about something that her man has to do, woman; fortunately the prefix bad means, she’s good looking.

However, Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey, Swizz Beatz and Alicia Keys, Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union, Nicolas Sarkozy and Carla Bruni, these are all examples of people who dumped their current chick and went with the better team to win.  Personally, I think Selita has a huge forehead.

My whole point here was to point out to you that although sports fans may feel like LeBron did the right thing, some may feel like he did Cleveland dirty, and some people don’t care where LeBron is because the Lakers are still going to win the championship anyway, however, we do the same thing every day.  Every day we make decisions that put us in a better position than where we were before.  It’s like they say, all is fair in Love & Basketball.

>>>>>>>Rahim walks in, while Jay is writing. Listens to the beat…starts boppin his head, then drops the following verse: <<<<<<<<<

You’re horrible, Dr. Jay, for breaking up with a girlfriend on Blackplanet. What about if she decided to not check her account for a few days?
Dr Jay’s ex (voicemail):  Jay, This is _____. I don’t understand why you haven’t been calling me, or coming to school all week. Can you please tell me what’s wrong?
Dr Jay (to himself):  She just doesn’t get it. I clearly sent her a blackplanet message. 
Ah, Who am I to talk, I didn’t break up with a girl face to face until college. When I was done with you in high school, I would have one of my home girls do it for me, or have them pick up the phone when you called me to ask you how you felt about not ever calling me again.  #Bawse.
Rahim’s ex: hello?
Rahim’s homegirl: yeah?
Rahim’s ex: hey, is Rahim there?
Rahim’s homegirl: yeah, but he said you guys aren’t going out anymore. Check your myspace.

Decisions…

Decisions, with respect to relationships are interesting.
This old lurky wise man once told me that men are like “monkey bars” to women. They hang onto the current one with one arm loose, with plans to swing to and hang on the next bar that gets them closer to their destination. This might translate to women as well, but i did say he was lurky, so he might have actually been talking about girls.
I digress.
Ultimately, people don’t have a problem with folks moving on, but they often have issues with:

How they did it:  “I got no advance notice…” “You cheated on me!” “I can’t believe you let my frat hit it!” etc.
Insecurities:  “I don’t think I’ll be able to get anyone or anything like this again…”
Investment: “I spent all my rent money on your handbag, heaux!” or “do you have any idea how many vaginas opportunities i missed out on being faithful to you?”
Lebron’s ex Dan Gilbert seemed to be angry on all accounts. Actually, he had plenty of notice so eff that.  Yes, he definitely doesn’t think he’ll be able to find another player like LeBron again. You think he woulda bitched over Leon Powe?  #NoDisrespect.  The Cavs have definitely invested a lot of time, money, etc into BronBron, but he’s given them plenty of handbags a great return.

So, um, scratch all of that. I don’t think either missed out on any vj in the past 7 years, unless it was by choice.  I’m not saying any names, Dan. You seem like the type that…

Anyway, in conclusion, everyone has to know their own worth, and be able to adapt to change. Everyone wants to win, so  they’ll go where they see the “W.” Relationships and friendships are an at-will agreements. People flip the bird and move on with or without notice #everydayB.

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The title makes you feel a way, doesn’t it?
It should.
Now think about how you feel.
Are you laughing? Why is it funny to you?
Are you guilty? Why do you feel that way?
Did you not even want to read it once you saw the title?
Are any memories coming back yo you? The ghosts of children past?

Sensitive topic, I know.

I was thinking about Father’s day (mad late) nevertheless thinking about it then I thought…damn abortion is like the ultimate father’s day gift to some people.
It’s for motherf*ckers who aren’t ready to be fathers, let alone dads, just yet…but they like practicing for it.

I am writing this, pointing fingers at everyone (which includes myself).
I retired from the “numbers game,” and a while ago made up my mind that I wasn’t going to open the legs of any woman who I couldn’t at least see having to open them wider 9 months later for. #seewhatididthere
I think about many of my friends who are now proud fathers, and I tip my hat to them, for stepping up to the plate.
They also remind me of what to do with my own hat, because I’m just not ready yet.
Oh yes, I’m going to enjoy having children, when I’m ready to have them, just like they enjoy their fatherhood.

God willing.

Until that time comes, I like my lifestyle. It’s safe(r).
I think about some of my friends who are NOT fathers, who could have been but opted out.
I’m telling you between a group of folks I know, we could have a hockey team…but no1 will ever see those kids play. Well we’d never see that many black kids playing hockey anyway.

Good or bad, it just is what it is.

I am writing this from the perspective of someone whose seen been through, and helped folks through some interesting “smishmorshmen” abortion scenarios:
I’ve seen the regular couple slip-ups
-I’ve seen the dude cheat on his girl and get a 1nighter or jump preg
-I’ve seen the girl cheat on the dude and try to still say it’s his
-I’ve had a homegirl who was messing with one of my boys get pregnant, and I had to help her through the abortion process because she felt he’d be too immature to deal with the situation. He still doesn’t know to this day. That happened to me twice. (no the kids weren’t mine either).

I’m saying this all to say that no one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes, but I just want folks to think.

A nut just isn’t worth it sometimes…and you ladies it’s even worse because sometimes yall don’t even get that!
Next time you get ready to lay down with someone and you’re iffy about it or them, just don’t do it.
Do you really see yourself having to deal with this person on a daily basis? How sure are you about the strength of that condom? Are you sure she’s on the pill? When she says “i don’t usually do this,” does she look you in the eye? Ladies, sometimes you’ve got to be the stronger gender. Bring the condom if you know it’s going down…just tumble through your bag and act like you’re not sure it’s there even though you know it is.
If he calls you a slut later he was going to call you one anyway. At least you’ll be known as a safe one.
Sticks and stones, right? We’re all grown here.
Strap up and get off, or don’t get off at all.
Diseases? Oh that’s a whole nother post…

Happy belated fathers day,

Rahim

*I sound angry, but I’m not. I was just looking to invoke thought and emotion with this post.  I really mean it.

**If you feel any way, that box below is for you.

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I see no changes wake up in the morning and I ask myself
is life worth living should I blast myself?
I’m tired of bein’ poor & even worse I’m black
my stomach hurts so I’m lookin’ for a purse to snatch
Cops give a damn about a negro
pull the trigger kill a nigga he’s a hero
Give the crack to the kids who the hell cares
one less hungry mouth on the welfare
First ship ‘em dope & let ‘em deal the brothers
give ‘em guns step back watch ‘em kill each other
It’s time to fight back that’s what Huey said
2 shots in the dark now Huey’s dead
I got love for my brother but we can never go nowhere
unless we share with each other
We gotta start makin’ changes
learn to see me as a brother instead of 2 distant strangers
and that’s how it’s supposed to be
How can the Devil take a brother if he’s close to me?
I’d love to go back to when we played as kids
but things changed, and that’s the way it is

ThisIsTheDream - Never Needed Acceptance From All You Outsiders