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“Oversaturated”

The over saturation in this world has gotten to a point where it makes it damn near impossible to find credible sources for anything, especially in fashion.

With “models” around every corner, “photographers” at every event and “blogs” covering every story, it can be quite a difficult experience when finding who is real and who is here just for the title. Professions like these are meant to be driven by passion, love and dedication. Sadly not everyone thinks of them in that light, we have a bunch of posers looking to be “the next big thing” as if there isn’t more to life. Where are those models who are drawn to the life because they were destined for this or the designers who create for the love of the art. The bloggers who are actual writers spilling their hearts for the world to read. The photographers who strive to capture that perfection shot that’ll leave you breathless. Those very talents that have the capability to inspire a world of creatives. This is missing, but how do we fix the problem?

I would be lying if I gave you an exact answer, truth be told I have no clue. Maybe it’ll be writers like myself addressing the issue or websites like this one who are allowing people such as myself to speak out. Perhaps it’ll be that one generation that says enough is enough. It might just be that group of people who decide we are going to do this right and be the example our fashion world needs again. Either way, a change is coming. A time where true talents and real artists will be praised and admired for their work. Back to the understanding that you are nothing but a creative mind sharing your thoughts. I have a great belief that this is already starting to unfold, slowly but progressively. Artists all over I urge you to be everything and more. There is no better time than right now.

When I look at the state of our young sisters of all races my heart breaks. Many of these girls are not reaching their full potential or are giving up on the beautiful existence that is called life. So many of them are not getting the proper guidance and nurturing that they need to learn what their true calling in this world should be. The lack of ambition, responsibility, trust and integrity have all been abandon because the people who are supposed to be the ones to guide these girls are wrapped up in their own situations that they maybe not be able to handled themselves. I think back to the women that helped mold and guide my life as a young girl. They were all of very difference beliefs, and walks of life, but their main goal was to see me achieve and to take my rightful place in this ever changing world. There were times when I did not want to hear the wisdom that was being passed on to me and I even ignored it, but as an adult, I have come to see all that was being spoken to into my life be manifested into reality. My dear young sisters, do not disregard wisdom. It is food for your soul and life. Do not let anything or anyone degrade or demean your character or your virtue. You the heart beat of this world. Greatness and strength lie within you hands. I want to see you grow and bloom into a beautiful rose. One that is powerful yet ladylike and full of grace. Take a hold of the life lesson that your elders are imparting to you and let it help you in changing this world. We are living in very serious and dangerous times. When we learn that we hold the keys to not only our futures, but to the futures of our men and children we can begin to impose the change that is so desperately needed. Be you and only you. Love yourself as God loves you. Beauty is wonderful. Having nice clothes and jewelry are wonderful also, but once you have your education and a mindset that is propelled into empowering yourself and others around you, you will see that you are a might force in this world. Education holds the keys to change. Knowledge is the path way to success, but without our heavenly father we are nothing. Make him your first love. Study his word and what it says over your life. Be the one to change the destiny for your families and be the role models for your peers. Never let anyone tell you that you’re a whore or a slut. Have the mindset that you’re a queen and when you meet the one who will be your king, he will know that one he has chosen is more than a pretty face or has a sexy figure but is royalty.

So young sisters, this is your season. Go ahead and change your destiny. Great things are awaiting you.

By @Boss545

In the midst of my barbecue fun, I stumbled upon a heated discussion about their views on Beyonce Knowles. This isn’t the first nor the last time this woman will grace our lips and as I chimed in, I couldn’t help but think is Beyonce really as bad as everyone thinks or are we all just hating? The consensus of Mrs. Knowles is that we love her passion, her drive, her ambition to be the best but has the path she traveled to get there been the most righteous?

Some time ago, when Irreplaceable was released I was in awe how the song had even men singing loudly to the left, to the left. I loved the video and like most consumers had merely downloaded the song and never saw the credits.  Then one day as I ate my butter pecan ice cream, she was mentioned on the news, not out of the ordinary but this time she had been scrutinized for claiming at a concert that she had penned the hit when in actuality it was co-written by Ne-Yo.  Some days later, Beyonce released a statement retracting the error and apologizing to the song writer and that interest made me wonder what else she had mistakenly stole. Next album, same discussion i finally had to know for myself. I let my fingers get to walking on google and found that she had indeed stole “If I Were A Boy” from an artist named BC Jean and the dance routine for “single ladies” from “Mexican Breakfast” chicks. I was shocked. Not that it was true but that she had taken full credit for everything. Where would be as a people if we didn’t acknowledge those before us.

Maybe she has finally learned her lesson or is finally tired of the lawsuits because during her 30 min special she shows how she found her hot dance routine in “Girls we run this”. I guess we live and we learn. Is it just as important to know the background when what’s jn front of us is so inviting? I guess time will tell. Until then… To B or not to B.

– Ms. Boss

Choose HAPPINESS over anything else…INTERRACIAL DATING!

This looks like Fort Greene Park

I LOVE seeing people who are comfortable with whomever they have chosen to date or marry.  You should NEVER look at a person because of their race and say “I can’t date this person because he or she isn’t Caucasian, African-American, Hispanic, etc.

I continue to see interracial couples being side-eyed or even stared at on the train, bus, at restaurants, just everywhere.  I really get annoyed for them because I don’t get the big deal.  The ONLY issue I have is for example if lets say an African-American person says” I only date white people or I only date Hispanics because blacks are just NO good”.  Now statements like that make my skin crawl.

My cousin came to NYC from London with his Caucasian girlfriend. People were literally turning their heads to look at them.  I was happy to see that it didn’t affect them.  Thinking back it affected me more because I would just think “What exactly is the problem?”  They are two people that are in love and enjoying life.

A situation happened to me freshmen year at Pace University.  I met an Italian guy and the chemistry was crazy. We would talk on the phone all the time and went out a few times.  We had good times together and he really made it seem like it would go further.   One time when he mentioned that his family didn’t approve with him dating outside of his race.  He then asked me how my family felt and I told him “I’ve been raised to NOT see COLOR or RACE.  He sounded very shocked.  As time went on he started to distance himself without a reason being directly told to me.  Eventually, we both transferred to different schools and things just faded out.

Years passed and recently we re-connected through facebook.  He was very excited to hear from me.  He set up a day for us to go out, the day came and he was nowhere to be found.  He would then hit me u saying things like “I’m sorry I’ve been busy at work”, “Don’t think I don’t want to see you because I do”, “We need to finish what we started at Pace University” and “You’re just so beautiful”.  All those words would come out of his mouth BUT NO action was taken.

I started seeing a “Caucasian” girl posting comments on his page, “you’re my new favorite guy”, and “I’m so excited to hang out”.  Then it HIT me, he would LOVE to go out with me BUT it all goes back to his family’s approval.  So why bother to lead me on? NOT once but twice.  I sent him a message telling him he’s exactly how he was at Pace University.  He wants to taste but afraid to get fully involved.  And instead of him being REAL he just ran away from the issue. I also told him I know that the fact that I’m African-American would be a BIG NO-NO in his family’s book. He NEVER responded which made me know for sure that my feelings were right.

At the end of the day HAPPINESS should not be based on color or race.  You can’t stop who you like or fall in love with.  Even if at first your family does not approve, seeing you happy will make them happy.

“BE TRUE, BE YOU, NOTHING ELSE MATTERS WHEN IT COMES TO BEING HAPPY AND IN LOVE”

_simplyvee_

Written and Directed by _SimplyVee_

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