A few people already know about this situation BUT i’ve decided to just let it ALL out and finally be FREE and NEVER have to mention it again!

Around 3 years ago, I met a guy (for this blog i’ll call him CHUCK)… I met Chuck in school and we starting talking. The “relationship” was a little bit rushed but at that moment it felt right. About three weeks after just talking, Chuck called me and goes “Hey Vee, Do you have a boyfriend?”. In my mind I was like “umm what is this guy talking about”. So I just played along and said “NO”, and he goes “Well, I wanted to know if I can be your boyfriend?” I found it to be really sweet how he went about asking me and off course I said “Yes”. Two months into the relationship I got Chuck a phone under my name (I know better now lol). We then decided to take a break. During the 1 month break, I didn’t date anyone else or even talk to anyone else. Chuck and I would still speak occasionally. Chuck and I decided to get back together. Everything seemed normal for the next few months. We would talk all the time, see each other.. it was GOOD. It had gotten to the point were we said “I LOVE YOU” to each other.

Then a DRASTIC change happened. Chuck started acting very weird. He was angry at times for no reason. It was just so different. I continued to stick it through though. One night his phone rang and the name that came up was “myspace jumpoff“. LOL! LOL! I asked him who that was and he came up with a whole story. He told me it was a guy around his way that was obsessed with myspace so they named him that. I didn’t think twice to look into it because I was never that type of girl. At around 9 months into the relationship it was just unbearable. Everything I seemed to do was wrong in Chuck’s eyes. If i said left, he would say right. So at that point, I didn’t see the relationship going anywhere. So Chuck and I broke up. I went and got my phone back from him. Chuck did the funniest thing, he handed me the phone without the battery. That alone made me KNOW he had to have been hiding something. So, I put my battery and his phone and that is when EVERYTHING became clear to me. Pictures with other girls and text messages that BLEW my MIND. One message was from a girl suggesting baby names and pleading for him to come see her. Never was I the girl to look through his phone BUT that night I called EVERY girl in his phone. One girl called me back.. and this is how the conversation went…

Female :”Hi, someone called my phone”,
Me: “Yeah, this is Chuck’s girlfriend”,
Female: “Chuck’s girlfriend? Do you know my cousin is having his baby next month”..
Me: ” You know i didn’t know but from messages I saw in his phone, I figured something was going on”.
Female:” WOW, I can’t tell her this because this is going to break her heart”…..

I called Chuck’s other phone and he wouldn’t answer. Then two days later I get a call from the girl who was having his baby. She told me EVERYTHING. Basically it was during the time we were on BREAK and they had sex ONCE and she got pregnant. She didn’t even know him but she kept the baby. She actually made me feel sorry for her and she invited me to the babyshower. LMAO! I became emotionally drained, I didn’t know what to do. Eventually Chuck called me and admitted to me that she was indeed pregnant. He apologized many times and just kept saying he didn’t mean to hurt me and he loves me. BLAH BLAH BLAH.. I literally LOST myself at that point. We didn’t speak again after that. Everything just ENDED!….. I thought about him a few times over the years and I would break down and cry.

I dated again after that but had a wall up and didn’t really give guys an opportunity.

Last year, I was in Soho and who do I bump into??? YUP! Chuck. He was very shocked to see me. He took my number and did call. We started “talking” again. He apologized again for everything that had happened. And all I kept saying was “Why get back with me when at that point you knew she was pregnant”. He said “How do you tell the person you love, the person you thought you would one day marry that you got another girl pregnant”. LOL .. We tried BUT the love I had for him back then just wasn’t how it was when I saw him. He thought that it would be back to those happy days and I would forget everything that happened. How do I forget something like that when the PROOF is right in front of my eyes.

He has a baby girl!!!!!…. Like lets be serious!

This situation was definitely the real life version of Usher “Confessions”

I feel like RIGHT now.. I’m finally free from what I thought me and him could possibly have. I am ready to fully date again and enjoy life!

LADIES: NO MAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS! IF HE CAN’T BE A MAN ABOUT A SITUATION THEN HE DOESN’T NEED TO BE IN YOUR LIFE! STOP GOING BACK TO THE PERSON WHO PUTS YOU DOWN, CHEATS ON YOU AND MAKES YOU FEEL LESS THEN WHO YOU KNOW YOU ARE!

Signing off,

Vanessa.